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The Tao of Forty


On April 22 this year, I turn forty – a milestone I have been looking forward to since last year! I always thought of forty as just a number, well a far off number when you are just in your twenties. As you come face-to-face with the famous Forty, turns out, it is pretty much a school of thought and a state of being!

Being forty is so liberating. Forty is solemn about the days ahead, yet grateful for all life has thrown their way – lessons, challenges and success all inclusive!

Forty has answered many questions for me and as my favorite saying goes, it has given me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

However as I once read somewhere, being forty is also like being a Panini sandwich– you may be the juiciest, richest part but you are still stuck between generations! Your children are growing up fast (Mommy of a 15 and a 9 year old thank you very much) and you see your parents aging too. You are definitely in the thick of all of life’s happenings not to mention your career too. Best of luck is all I can say! You will be needing it, rest assured.

A Forty’s playlist may range from Air Supply and swings onto Ed Sheeran. Forty will rock a Sufi qawwali any day. Forty will never understand how in the world Chance the rapper earned the Grammy for his songs, but will be sporty enough to bear the songs for the sake of their teenagers. Patience is a virtue you finally rock at forty.

Forty is about cherishing friendships, and cutting out the riff-raff from one’s life. Forty says things in your face, and has no qualms in accepting the truth! Forty will remember fond details with perfect accuracy from childhood, but will struggle locating their cell phone which they actually put in their handbag two minutes ago.

Forty knows that as they tab browse their way through this ever-fast paced life – they must remember to juggle their balls and that it is okay to drop a few of them. As long as they keep juggling the glass balls, never mind a few rubber balls they miss.

The more I think about the Tao of Forty, the more I begin to love it. I am ready to embrace my Forties and already look forward to what is next. Forty is cool. Be like Forty!

The Other Side of Thirties….


There was a time when I thought entering thirties was a sobering experience – but wait till you get to the ‘other side’…the truth is out here!

Today, as I turn 36… oh wow, wait! …as I turn an awe-inspiring thirty-six, I can only wonder that life is indeed shorter than it seems. I am thankful that I have come this far in life, and I cannot wait to unfold what life has in store for me and mine in the future!

Birthdays and new years – as clichéd as it may sound – are indeed the best times for self-reflection! You can take stock of what has happened in the past years, and you can only hope for better roads leading to your future!

Today, if I sum up the most important thing I have learnt all these years, it is that of the importance to be at peace with yourself. Some people find it through inner connection with the Almighty, some by accepting their past mistakes and moving on, and some by just nurturing the most important relationship in our life – that, which we have with our own selves.  I am trying to learn a bit of all of these, and more.  So be at peace with yourself, do your best but also remember that there is only so much a person can do.

The other important thing I have learnt is the importance of being in a positive mood! Your perspective really decides how you will experience and remember that moment later.  If you hold your head high, you can pass through the most difficult phases in your life.  My one mantra for all situations, good or bad, “This too shall pass” has helped me in more ways than one.

As I enter the other side of the thirties, laden with half a life worth of experience, achievements and most importantly failures, I am ready to add more to my learning basket.  As I juggle my family, friends, work, home and other social obligations, I sincerely hope that I learn to do justice to all. It’s okay to drop the plastic balls but I sincerely hope I don’t drop any of the glass balls!

4:51 p.m.

After a long day of hectic running around, I feel so blessed to have a constant barrage of birthday greetings, calls as well as a surprise birthday lunch with friends! I feel so blessed to have so many people out there who love me, and think of me on my special day.  This itself is worth stepping on the other side of the thirties! Ready, set…go!