The ever expanding social networks in cyberspace: Devil’s in the detail!


Way back in the early 90s, we were lucky enough to have one of the first few internet access in the country, courtesy my dad and his love for technology. I remember me and my brother would stay up late at night, learning and exploring the very interesting ‘internet’, and may I remind you that we were using windows earlier version which was not as easy as your Explorer these days. We would thrive on the sound of our modem connecting, and at a stage had even mastered the art of distinguishing a ‘good’ connection from a ‘bad’ one with the mere sound of the modem’s ‘tring tring screeeeeeeech….’. We had to patiently wait for all the pictures to be downloaded before we were able to view the full page. I recall my first interaction with a social networking tool, the mIRC (internet relay chat) which seemed fascinating at that time (and utter waste of time now that you think of it). We were the true mIRC ‘cheetahs’ as we engaged in discussions with random mIRC users, shared secret NUI details with other Pakistani friends of other unsuspecting users (and I am not explaining this! mIRC followers in Pakistan will chuckle after reading this!) and little did we know that this was just the beginning of the soon to explode social networking order in the years to follow…

There was myspace that I never used so am not qualified to comment on it. Then came along Orkut I believe, but for me it soon frizzled out. It was too public for my taste and I did not appreciate realllllly random people and their request for ‘fraandship’. That’s when my sister sent me an invitation for facebook. Ah!

Facebook has seen an exceptionally fast growth in the number of its users, and perhaps a matching growth in its support: for and against! There is a strong number of facebook users who use it quite religiously, updating every single event, thought and questions that pop up in their mind. The question ‘whats on your mind’ is taken quite literally in this case. It is because of such users that I have started thinking twice before I update my own status, lest I sound like one of them!!!! On the other extreme are the users who believe so strongly in the conspiracy theories that they literally deactivated their accounts, lest the Zionist lobby captures their family photos, because ofcourse the ‘forces out there’ would be interested to know how many cousins they have, how many vacations they have taken in a year, what is their favourite colour, and of late, how many Farmville animals they are collecting! While some suspicions maybe correct, a little caution can always help: you do not need to add applications as they indicate that the information can be used by third parties, and also you can always have separate friends list to ensure that people only have access to information to the extent you would like it to be shared!

We also need to define facebook etiquettes, the extent to which one must comment on one’s family members facebook status and this specially holds true for husband-wife and people in a relationship. I have witnessed husband-wife getting into a row, which was very amusing at that point in time but perhaps not-so-funny to the couple in question. I have also seen people stating weird statements after what seems like a very apparent breakup or just-about-to-break-up! Events like these have started taking a toll on atleast my interest in facebook and I am increasingly losing interest. The only thing that keeps me going is the fact that I am able to stay in very regular contact with friends who I don’t get to meet regularly and with family and extended family. I have also recently started using it to share my blog posts, and to give the devil its due, the majority of my blog traffic is diverted from facebook! I should hardly complain!

Information sharing has so far been one of the greatest usage of facebook and one gets to interact with like-minded people. Of late, a lot of political parties have started using it to disseminate information about their political mandates, and then ofcourse there is the flip side of the coin: attacking the opponent political parties and their leaders! Then ofcourse, there are other groups that act like a support group for writers, poets and even potential chefs! Sometimes it is a great way to share live personal events: My brother and I used to update pictures and videos from my sisters wedding to her wedding group on a daily basis, literally until the wee hours of the morning, to share the events with family all over the world. I was most amused to ignore requests from random, and I mean really random people, who wanted to join the group! Why would anyone want to be Abdullah Deewana beats me?! Speaking of weddings, there is an increasing trend of rishta seeking aunties actively checking out potential girls on the facebook, putting two potential candidates in contact with each other via this very active social media. Long gone are the days when your father would jump at the idea of emailing back an interested boy, nowadays parents email each other and share email addresses and facebook IDs of two potential candidates. The world is changing indeed!

As I was learning more about facebook, along came Twitter. Now that’s one tool I have yet to get comfortable with, but its amazing the extent of which one can share information with others with a single ‘tweet’, the twitter term for a message. It has a whole new vocabulary that takes time for one to adjust. What is most amazing however is that there are politicians such as Marvi Memon who are active twitters, there are media personalities like Faisal Qureshi and Naveen Naqvi who keep you informed of their programmes, give you food for thought on various current issues in addition to many other newspapers, news channels, NGOs, development agencies and others. Naveen Naqvi’s show, ‘Breakfast at Dawn’ has even promoted upcoming bloggers by interviewing them and even reads out comments if you happen to ‘tweet’ them at the right time! Lo and behold, even Karan Johar is on twitter as I recently discovered!!! I thought it was hilarious but apparently it is even ‘signed off’ as an ‘authentic site’.

Much has been written on this subject, but today I focussed on my experiences and observations on the ever-increasing social networking tools. For those of you who are keen to read more, you may wish to check out this website that details out all you ever needed to know about all the currently available social media! I was also most amused to read this other article on one of my favourite blogs, Deadpanthoughts and I hope you enjoy reading it just as much as I did. I am intentionally not commenting on the bloggers’ community as I am saving that for another post! However needless to say, blogging is the new way of social networking, media reporting and communication, posting your footprints on the cyberspace. I am just a newbie in this community but I love maintaining my own blog, receiving feedback and to hear what others feel or think about what I write.

Just as I finished writing this post, I received another invitation to join something called DotSpots. Is it time already to shift to yet another social media? And more importantly, how much cyber footprint are we willing to leave behind as we grow and glow in the ever-expanding social space? Personally I am growing wary of over-exposure in the cyber world. That is, until I find another cyber-activity to engage me and my energies!

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  2. I think the less cyber footprint one has, the better are the chances that you will be able to control it. I know its a contradiction of sorts coming from a blogger but one can always control where one writes and what one joins and the level of privacy …

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  4. Great post as always! I was very excited to discover facebook but have been umming and aahing lately to use it as often as I used to. It’s a case of how much is too much? For me it has been very hard to control who I add to my friends list, there was a time when I had just opened my account, when I added anyone and everyone of my old school fellows but the novelty wore off soon after. Also how can you politely ignore your far off relatives who constantly send you messages to add them when you really dont want to. In some instances I feel ppl behave like they are in high school comparing who has the most friends and adding ppl just to expand their friends list. It has been great to share pictures with close friends and family specially coz I’m living on the other side of the world, but managing lists is becoming quite tiresome.
    I love your description of the internet connections back in the early 90’s. We were the same and used to hate it when after fifteen mins of trying to get connected the lights would go out :/

  5. hmmm…nice…realy lykd it n felt a bit more embarrased too while readin it coz i am the one who uses twitter alotttt n to sm ppl mis use it too:P….realy lykd it…nicely written:)!!!!

  6. I agree with Taz on the cyber footprint, but then these days all it takes is an ip for someone to track u down they really dont need to do the math so unless you are the cause of defamation of the wrong kind or are causing harm by your blogging i say F**k it and do what u do best write your heart out.

    Im seriously tired of Fbook by the way and getting there with twitter, life calls for a new cyber fix soon.

  7. It’s always pleasant to read your blog. I also made my first public network at MIRC in late 90s. After that, I went out in the real social world (out of cyber world). I completed my study, added up lots of new friends in my college & university lives.
    The First year of job was quite strenuous & tough but after one year I realized that the Social element of my life is quite Far from my professional life. At that time, I joined FB for I. Since then I am on FB and now I m fully in touched with all my Uni friends (all over the world). FB is an Awesome Friends-Socio Network.

    As professional life is a big consumer of my time, So, I think FB is enough for connecting with the friends and love ones. No need to join any new world right now.

    One think I noticed that this Cyber world has declined the ratio of Gatherings, parties, Trips, long drives, celebrations……..people now celebrate every event on Net-world.
    Instead of MOVE, WALK & RUN, we are living with COMMENT, UPLOAD & SHARE.
    Don’t forget the Happiness of Eating & Climbing with Friends

    Nice, Nice and Nice effort SIS.
    Well-done…Keep it up

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  10. Aapne bade behtareen tareeke se teenon social networking site se related apne experience share kiye hain.

    I also use facebook to divert attention of my readers to my blog. But somehow I still like Orkut because its more simple. As far twitter I don’t feel any urge to tweet in the ocean of tweets & retweets pouring in every second.

    Aur haan chalte chalte agar aapko acharaj ho raha ho ki main kahan se aa gaya aapke blog par to it was due to twitter where I saw one of ur tweet 🙂

    Happy Blogging !

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